This post is really hard for me to write. It’s something so personal and so real and so painful, that I hope I say the right thing so you understand what I am trying to say.
In a world with so many romantic novels, movies, shows, and magazines, it is SO easy to get caught up in the fantasy world of “perfect love.” It’s so easy to want that perfect Prince Charming like we’ve seen billions of times through Disney. Disney makes it feel like it’s just a snap of the fingers away from our reach and all we have to do is see a bright star in the sky and wish on it (preferably at 11:11pm).
Every girl dreams of her wedding day. Every girl dreams when she’ll meet the Perfect One. Every girl dreams about being a princess and as a girl, I can say from personal thought, that I want the happily ever after to my story with a fairytale ending and a Taylor Swift song to match. Am I right? Almost every girl is probably nodding their head to this while thinking: “That’s me! Yes!!”
Well, friends, I have to tell you something. I’ve listened to so many Taylor Swift songs and read so many books and watched so many movies with fairytale endings and I have wanted that to be me. Then I’ve also seen real life and how different it is from the big screen. I’ve seen my own life and realized that it’s not so easy as they all make it seem. The world tells me (and you) that I can make it true for me, too. It’s what love is all about! You make your happily ever after and you can have your fairytale ending. It’s as easy as 1, 2, 3, 4.
If it’s so easy as 1, 2, 3, 4, then why am I here writing this? Why am I here telling you about Disney and how it’s not that easy. Why am I telling you this if I know all the answers because of what the media says? It’s simple. It’s because it’s imperfect. The media lies. You’ve probably noticed it from photoshoots and models and the pressure to be perfect. Nobody is perfect just like no love story is perfect.
Except for one, that is. No, it’s not Cinderella, like many might be thinking. It’s not any Disney story that they could create and imagine. It’s God. You see, I know you’ve probably heard this story a thousand times, but God sent his son to die for you and for me. Think about it for just a second.
Picture a father who loves his son so much. Picture him loving and being proud of his son. They are at a play ground and he’s pushing his son in a swing. His son is perfectly clean; never has been dirty a day in his life. They love each other so much and then the father sees you. Then he sees me. We’re filthy. We’re dirty, we’re stinky, sweaty, horribly dirty. We’re orphaned and are destined for failure. And then he thinks of us and realizes that his house is not complete without us. Even with our dirty selves, he still wants us. So he looks at his son and he realizes that in order to have us, his Son needs to die for our sins and for our filth. His perfect and clean Son dies for the dirty little children. He’s lived a perfect life and he’s done nothing wrong. He comes and dies for us, for you, for me because he and his Father love us so very much.
So the Son dies for us and while dying, he thinks of me and he thinks of you. He thinks about how we are going to begin to love him and his Father and how in a little bit, we’re going to be apart of the family and living in their home. That’s what perfect love is. Perfect love is when God (The Father) sacrificed his son (Jesus) for our sins because He loved us SO much.
He loves us so much, in fact, that he goes one step further. He writes our love story. He writes a separate one for each of his children. He writes us as the main character and he chooses a perfect Prince Charming. He knows the details and writes it out, detail by tiny detail. He knows exactly what He wants to happen and he writes it down. It’s perfect, because the Father wants the best for his children. He has it in a book and it’s a perfect fairytale made just for us. He doesn’t let us see it, though. He wants us to live it. He knows our exact moves and thoughts and knows that each minute we live, it’s exactly what’s happening in the book.
He already knows if we’re not going to trust His story and his planning and his ways. He always knows when we’re going to fall and cry out and be heartbroken. But He knows that in the end, our fairytale ending is coming. Our Prince Charming that He planned out is waiting for us at the final chapter. And all we have to do is flip to the next page to know what God has in store for our lives. All we have to do is trust and love Him. Because the more we love Him, the more we realize what He has planned for our lives. The more we love and seek Him, the more we realize what He’s thinking and what He’s planning.
Why is this painful for me to write? Because I am still struggling with releasing my ideas of how the story should end and giving them to God. It’s a process. It’s painful and it’s hard to write because I know how tempting it is to want to build your own fairytale. It’s all around us in every kind of media; it’s hard to walk away from and ignore. It’s hard when best sellers and grammy winners and oscar winners are all romance-influenced. It’s hard, but God never said it would be easy. That’s why it’s a struggle. That’s why it’s painful. But that’s why it’s worth it. Because at the end of that book comes the perfect fairytale. At the end of that perfect fairytale, comes a God-inspired life made just for you. And that’s better then any award the media can give out.
So, why fall for the media’s kind of love? Because when you know that your own Father has planned the perfect fairytale for your life, the media’s idea of what it should look like just doesn’t compare…